You Are (Not/Doch/Maybe) Alone
The second lesson we learn in life — immediately after object permanence — is the distinction between I and Others — paradoxically, perhaps, at the peak of our need of Others. And on that foundation, we gradually build up our individuality, our personhood, our self. Throughout the project, we never cease to flounder in the sea of Others, for they remain our primary source of joy, sorrow, inspiration, distraction, love, hate, insight, confusion, companionship, estrangement. It is but for the Others, that we would all be left alone with the I. In this open discussion, we will delve into our relations to this I; to _ Solitude _.
Aloneness vs. Loneliness
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." — Sartre
Being alone is an objective, physical state. But it is also something more. Being lonely is a subjective, emotional feeling. But it is also something more. Where do you draw the line? How are these two notions related or unrelated? Is one contingent upon the other? And how do the Others fit into the equation?
Independence vs. Alienation
"Marks of Identity is, among other things, the expression of the process of alienation…" — Juan Goytisolo
They both imply separateness, apartness. One is a something our society encourages in us, the other is something our society imposes on us. One is what we do to ourselves, one is what we do to others. But which is which? Can you have one without the other? Would we desire one if not for the other?
Solitude vs. Isolation
"Solitude vivifies; isolation kills." — Joseph Roux
What do they mean to you? And what places do they have in your life? Does Isolation feed your taste for Solitude? Or has Solitude enforced your Isolation? Why do you need it or fear it? How do you exploit it or avoid it? Do you have enough? Do you have too much? How has your attitude toward Solitude and Isolation changed over your life? And where do you see it evolving in the future?
Join us on Friday, 13th of April 2018 at 19:00 for our monthly Psychoanalysis on the Street Meetup to participate in an open discussion and share your thoughts, learnings, and stories about Solitude. Come alone. Or bring your friends. Or both.
About the facilitator:
Ulysses Nara is a writer, entrepreneur and Stillpoint Community member with a background in media and philosophy.
About the format:
Psychoanalysis on the Street is an open-discussion for people interested in psychology, culture, and the arts. Our aim is to bring psychoanalysis out of the consulting room and to give individuals from all walks of life an opportunity to engage with the exploratory energy of depth psychology. No background in psychology is required.